I heard that bully, Joe, has been abusing his girlfriend, Abby, so badly that she tried to break up with him and then he became this power-monster and beat her.
What? That’s horrible! She’s my friend but I don’t know what I can do about it. She needs to talk to an expert or something.
If only it were that easy, Nicki. According to research on the topic, teens are unlikely to tell anyone about violence in their relationships. When they do talk about it, they are likely to talk to a friend, not a teacher, counselor, parent or the authorities.
I feel bad because I actually overheard Joe and his buddies talking about abusing Abby and some other girls they hang with and I didn’t say anything.
Dude, you were right not to say anything. They would have turned on you.
Did You Know? Only 8% of high school students who had experienced dating aggression actually used formal sources of help.
The position you were in is really difficult. The entire topic of dating abuse is rather large, so we are going to cover a lot in this post.
Good, because I don’t even really know much about this topic. But I have heard rumors about some really nasty stuff going on with students. A lot of it happens in the high school but I know it begins in middle school.
You’re right. It seems to begin in middle school, when people begin to form crushes and date. But the ability to manage it begins right here and now. Please read the following posts to explore dating abuse in greater detail.
Did You Know? 25% of teen dating relationships contain violent elements. In one study, from 30-50% of female high school students reported having already experienced teen dating violence.
What Is Dating Abuse?
Who Does It And Why?
What Are The Warning Signs?
Mistaken Identity: Terri Thought He Was Nice
Your Best Defense
Some Prevention Ideas
What To Do If You Are in An Abusive Relationship
How Can You Help A Friend?
Are You The Abuser?
BONUS YSS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 1
BONUS YSS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 2
BONUS YSS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 3
BONUS YSS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 4
Please Note: the sources for the information found in this and the following posts can be found on the last post YSS BONUS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 4.
Post Question: Have you ever experienced violence in a relationship? What did you do about it?