Dating Abuse

I heard that bully, Joe, has been abusing his girlfriend, Abby, so badly that she tried to break up with him and then he became this power-monster and beat her.

What? That’s horrible! She’s my friend but I don’t know what I can do about it. She needs to talk to an expert or something.

If only it were that easy, Nicki. According to research on the topic, teens are unlikely to tell anyone about violence in their relationships. When they do talk about it, they are likely to talk to a friend, not a teacher, counselor, parent or the authorities.

 I feel bad because I actually overheard Joe and his buddies talking about abusing Abby and some other girls they hang with and I didn’t say anything.

Dude, you were right not to say anything. They would have turned on you.

Did You Know? Only 8% of high school students who had experienced dating aggression actually used formal sources of help.

The position you were in is really difficult. The entire topic of dating abuse is rather large, so we are going to cover a lot in this post.

 Good, because I don’t even really know much about this topic. But I have heard rumors about some really nasty stuff going on with students. A lot of it happens in the high school but I know it begins in middle school.

You’re right. It seems to begin in middle school, when people begin to form crushes and date. But the ability to manage it begins right here and now. Please read the following posts to explore dating abuse in greater detail.

 Did You Know? 25% of teen dating relationships contain violent elements. In one study, from 30-50% of female high school students reported having already experienced teen dating violence.


What Is Dating Abuse?

Who Does It And Why?

What Are The Warning Signs?

Mistaken Identity: Terri Thought He Was Nice

Your Best Defense

Some Prevention Ideas

What To Do If You Are in An Abusive Relationship

How Can You Help A Friend?

Are You The Abuser?


BONUS YSS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 1

BONUS YSS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 2

BONUS YSS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 3

BONUS YSS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 4

Please Note: the sources for the information found in this and the following posts can be found on the last post YSS BONUS: Rap Sheets for Relationship Conflicts – 4.


Post Question: Have you ever experienced violence in a relationship? What did you do about it?

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13 responses to “Dating Abuse”

  1. wlkhs601 May 8, 2017 at 1:32 pm

    I have experienced violence in a relationship but to a very very small degree. We were in like 7th grade and it wasn’t anything real but my partner was very aggressive and controlling.

  2. WLKHS402 May 5, 2017 at 1:14 pm

    I have never experienced violence in a relationship, but I would never be violent towards my partner and if I saw someone randomly abusing their partner, I would take action and try to fight them off.

  3. WLKHS409 May 5, 2017 at 1:02 pm

    I have never experienced violence in a relationship but I have heard about violence within a relationship. I could not do anything about it because it was already resolved.

  4. WLKHS514 May 3, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    I haven’t been in a violent relationship, but I seen a violent relationship, I didn’t know how to act upon it.

  5. WLKHS709 May 2, 2017 at 4:43 pm

    Thankfully, I have not experienced violence in a relationship. If I was in an abusive relationship I would tell someone though.

  6. WLKHS707 May 2, 2017 at 4:40 pm

    I have never experienced a relationship with violence before, therefor, I did not have to do anything about it.

  7. WLKHS706 May 2, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    I have not experienced violence in a relationship, and that is something I would never want to be a part of. God forbid that happened to me, I would definitely tell someone that can help me get out of it or keep me protected.

  8. WLKHS714 May 2, 2017 at 4:33 pm

    No I have never experienced violence in a relationship and I will never get myself into one. If I were in a violent relationship I would immediately get myself out of it, and I would make sure to have friends with me as back up.

  9. wlkhs311 December 22, 2016 at 7:14 pm

    No, I have thankfully never experienced violence in a relationship

  10. WLKHS206 December 2, 2016 at 11:53 am

    No, I have not. I am happy I have not.

  11. WLKHS303 November 28, 2016 at 5:09 pm

    I have never been in a violent relationship, thank god.

  12. WLKHS0205 November 28, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    I have never experienced physical violence in a relationship, but I have experienced verbal abuse. In most of my relationships, there have been many times when the guy says that I am stupid or things like that I am a slut or that what I say doesn’t matter. In response to this, I broke up with them because it was really rude and annoying.

    1. WLKHS0110 November 29, 2016 at 3:12 pm

      It’s good that you decided to end things with them because this could have eventually escalated into something violent. Your partner should never purposely disrespect you or hurt you.